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How to Overcome Nervousness: 8 Simple Habits

Do you suffer from nervousness during exams?

Do you lose your cool during presentations?

Do you stand on the stage with a speech in your hand and face the audience without being able to utter a word?

Do you feel your heart thumping inside your chest, knowing everyone’s eyes are on you and watching to see what you’ll do next?

Then this article is for you. I’ll be telling you some practical ways to overcome nervousness if that’s the case.

When you’re nervous, your mind can play tricks on you. You may feel like others are judging you or that there is some pressure to perform. The truth is that most people don’t care about what you have to say, and they certainly don’t judge you based on how nervous or scared you are.

It’s normal to feel this way when something important is at stake. But once you realize that no one cares about your performance as much as you think they do, it becomes easier to relax and enjoy yourself.

Define your reasons for being nervous.

When you’re nervous, it can be hard to think clearly. It’s natural to feel that way when you’re in a new situation or being evaluated. But focusing on the negative aspects of your nerves will only make you more anxious and self-conscious. Instead, try to focus on the positive aspects:

1. Tell yourself that nervousness is normal. It’s just one of those feelings we all experience from time to time. It will pass!

2. Accept that nerves are nothing more than a response to an anticipated event, whether a speech or meeting new people. You don’t need to fear them; they are simply part of life’s ups and downs!

3. Identify what makes you nervous — is it public speaking or meeting people? Think about how other people deal with their anxieties and what strategies they use to overcome them (i.e., deep breathing, positive self-talk).

4. If possible, practice what you plan on saying or doing beforehand so that when the big moment arrives, your body is more relaxed and prepared for action rather than reacting from an emotional place where everything seems complicated and out of control!

5. Take deep breaths whenever possible — even before you speak.

6. Stay positive about whatever situation makes you nervous — if you can’t control what is happening, try to keep things in perspective by reminding yourself that others have dealt with similar problems and survived!

7. If possible, take a break from whatever activity makes you anxious (i.e., go for a walk or chat with someone else).

Ask yourself: what is the worst that could realistically happen?

Nervousness is a normal part of life. It is impossible to eliminate nervousness, but it can be managed and reduced.

If you are feeling nervous, ask yourself: what is the worst that could realistically happen? Think about this question and answer it honestly. The worst thing that could happen is not as terrible as you imagined.

Once you have accepted that whatever happens will not end the world, you will feel much better about the situation.

The next step is to accept that things are out of your control. You cannot control other people’s reactions or opinions about you, but you can control how people respond when they meet you. When meeting new people for the first time, focus on them, not yourself or what they think of you.

Instead of worrying about how others see you or what they think of you, concentrate on getting to know them better by asking questions about their interests and hobbies. This will help build rapport, make them feel more comfortable around you in future meetings, and make them feel good about themselves because they know that someone cares enough to ask them questions about their interests!

Visualize positively.

Research shows that visualization techniques can help reduce stress and increase performance on physical tasks. So imagine yourself feeling calm and composed right before an important meeting or presentation; visualize yourself smiling confidently as people approach.

Picture yourself making eye contact and speaking clearly without fumbling over words or phrases; see yourself getting through the day without any major hiccups or mistakes; and so forth…

Focus on what’s important instead of worrying about what could go wrong. It’s easy to get bogged down in the details and lose sight of your larger goals. Instead, focus on what’s important: a job well done, a productive day, being able to provide for yourself and others, etc.

Slow down and breathe with your belly.

Slow down and breathe with your belly. This is one of the most important things you can do when you’re feeling nervous — but it’s also one of the hardest. 

When we’re scared, our bodies automatically go into fight or flight mode, which means our breathing becomes shallow and rapid. Shallow breaths may feel like they give us more oxygen, but they deprive us of the deep breaths we need to calm down.

One way to improve this is by practising mindfulness meditation — focusing on your breathing can help slow things down and reduce anxiety.

Assume rapport in social situations.

To overcome your nerves and be confident in social situations, you must assume that everyone else feels the same way. This means that they are just as nervous as you are — or even more so — but they’re not showing it.

When you’re feeling nervous about an upcoming social event, take a few moments to imagine yourself having fun with your friends or family members at that event. You could even write notes about what you’d like to discuss with each person there — make sure they’re positive! 

This kind of visualization technique has been shown in studies to reduce anxiety levels and calm nerves before an important event.

Tell yourself that you are excited.

When you feel nervous, it cIt can be hard to believe that you are excited about something. When you feel nervous, your nervousness is excitement because of how uncomfortable it makes you think. 

The first step in overcoming nervousness is to remind yourself that being nervous means you care about what’s going on, which makes you excited!

Know your limits and boundaries.

If you’re going on a first date or have been asked to give a speech at work, you must know your limits and when they’ve been reached. You need to know when enough is enough! You don’t want to push yourself beyond your comfort zone because this will make things worse in the long run. 

Also, if someone pushes past your boundaries, speak up and tell them they need to stop pushing so hard!


You don’t need to avoid things that make you nervous. These seven habits can help you cope with them instead. You’ll feel less nervous and more confident in yourself. You can also use these habits to eliminate other negative emotions, like worry or anxiety.